Post by enflores3000 on Sept 20, 2015 5:23:49 GMT -5
Hello, My name is Enrique Flores. I'm 28 years old and am trying to remain a gay Christian but I'm seriously being put through a very hard and trying test and I can't figure out what to do or what I'm doing wrong. I am going to start by saying that I have Asperger's Syndrome so if I'm not explaining myself well I apologize in advance.
So here it goes:
My significant other of almost eight years left me for a guy we brought into the relationship. This happened just over four months ago. I have believed that God has told me that we are meant to be together when I prayed and asked him for a sign which he gave me on Memorial Day. I was raised by my grandparents and I was very close with my grandmother as I am with my significant other. Both of us are six years apart, just like them and I am the youngest just like my grandmother was. Since then I have strongly believed that God will bring him back and I have prayed and prayed and prayed and since then I have been put into an identity crisis by my own family, my mother, her husband and my sister to be matter-of-fact. You see I been out since I was 13 and since he left they have come down hard on me for being a homosexual, my mother's husband believes that if I'm truly saved I will no longer be gay but straight, my mother believes that I was born gay but I must live a celibate and single life (she may as well just say homosexuality is wrong) and my sister says that God will not bring him back because He does not condone homosexual relationship. I must state that me and my significant other did not have a very great relationship but I believe he still loves me for I still love him with all my heart and soul and I want a future with him, no one else. I have tried to discuss this with the local church that accepts gay people but the head of the church told me that I'm obsessed with him and need to talk to my therapist about my obsession while my therapist disagrees and the staff of my psychiatric place do not think that and feel he is a good motivator for me. My therapist keeps suggestion that I go to that church (yeah, getting the run around there.) I can't keep living my life wonder what is true and what is not when it comes to the Bible and homosexuality because though I have strongly disagree with it I have truly been shaken by my family's betrayal and when I posted about this on Facebook my sister decided to blame my significant other for what she has said justifying herself with the Bible and saying that I'm taking out what he did on them when I was taking out what they said on them. Then after this I text her and told her off and she has since barred me from having anything to do with my niece and nephew and putting it on my disorder instead of herself and why? All because I believe God will bring this guy back and they do not believe it because of homosexual bigotry. But I can't prove them wrong no matter how much I try and they contradict me and I just don't know how much more I can take. I am being put through too much then I can handle. I feel everyday that I am struggling with who I am and all because I want to be with the man I truly love.
Another reason I know me and him are meant to be is because we have similar childhood backgrounds (parents divorced [though for different reasons], raised by our grandparents because of it, both have ex-step-fathers that we despised.) I know that there are thousands who could have these similar backgrounds but we also had common traits and people like this to come together as we did only come once in a life time and as I mentioned above the common age gap between me and him and my grandparents and me being the youngest like my grandmother whom I was close with like I am with him. I don't believe in coincidence, I long ago stopped believing in that.
Now, I won't go into long details like why we added a third person to the relationship or what all our problems were because I have since forgiving the situation and some of the problems he caused in our relationship, I'm not innocent, I had my faults and have asked for forgiveness but I still cannot forgive myself for what I have done to him. So please don't ask. It will make me feel like I am a hypocrite and a liar so I will not bring it up. I've even forgiven him for leaving me and have asked God to forgive him for it and our past problems.
All I want is for prayers for me and my significant other to get back together because he is where I belong not here with my family (I am currently living with my mother who is my payee.) I haven't had a great relationship with my sister ever and my mother since I was eight and she always speaks negatively about me about how I was a bad kid, etc. and my significant other despised her and I can't blame him nor do I condemn him for it because he saw how bad she is for himself. I have long ago accepted this and have no desire to change it. I love them but want no part of them. Right now I don't have much of an option. I don't drive as of yet and my mother is my payee. Not going into details.
Oh, my significant other does know about what has happened with my family and from what I've gathered he isn't thrilled about it. Apparently a family member of his that I am friends with told him. Me and my significant other are currently not in contact but he has spoken with my cousin and told her things and I know they are true cause they are complaints about me but the same time she claims he truly cares about me and that's just sending mixed messages because if he truly cares then why leave me in the first place and keep allowing this to happen to me? I don't know if he knows he's why (by that I mean the above mentioning of what my family believes) my cousin claims he does but I will say my cousin isn't 100% reliable either so you have to kind of pick and choose what to believe from what she says. I believe he does care about me (probably still loves me) but I'm just saying that's a funny way of showing someone you care to run off with another person and to have heard what is happening to me and has made no contact with me what-so-ever. I still love him regardless. There's nothing can be done about my family. They have rights just as much as I do, though I feel I don't have any rights at the moment.
Also, am I praying wrong is that why God hasn't brought him back yet? What am I doing wrong? What am I to do? I have been faithful to God and have asked for forgiveness for my sins and I have tried really hard to believe Matthew 21:22 (please don't quote "God's will", Matthew 21:22 makes it clear that it has nothing to do with God's will when it comes to "Ask, believe, receive." Yes I know God's word and I am very against the whole adding exceptions to what is written in the word that aren't there in a verse) and with what I am going through who can blame me, even my therapist and the psychiatric place are in agreement that, with or without a disorder, I am being put through too much humanly possible to deal with on a daily bases.
I may add that I have had some health issues along with being exhausted and sick to my stomach, all the time from the strain and stress. There's another health issue but I'm not putting that on here. I have had suicidal thoughts because off all this though I won't act on them out of fear he will get the full blame for it and I can't do that to him.
So please, pray for me and pray that my significant other will come back. And if I am praying wrong please let me know. I ask God to break them up and to bring him back to me because I don't want nothing to do with the guy he left me for as the guy was a supposed "friend" of mine from high school that I had a crush on but he deceived me for years about our friendship I found out from his two-faced best friend and taking my significant other was one thing too many. I am working on forgiving my ex-friend but deceiving me for years then doing this was too much at once. I just want to be with my significant other. He is my best friend, my soulmate, my lover and my better half. I love him purely and always have and always will and I just want to spend the rest of my life with him.
So please, pray that me and him get back together.
So here it goes:
My significant other of almost eight years left me for a guy we brought into the relationship. This happened just over four months ago. I have believed that God has told me that we are meant to be together when I prayed and asked him for a sign which he gave me on Memorial Day. I was raised by my grandparents and I was very close with my grandmother as I am with my significant other. Both of us are six years apart, just like them and I am the youngest just like my grandmother was. Since then I have strongly believed that God will bring him back and I have prayed and prayed and prayed and since then I have been put into an identity crisis by my own family, my mother, her husband and my sister to be matter-of-fact. You see I been out since I was 13 and since he left they have come down hard on me for being a homosexual, my mother's husband believes that if I'm truly saved I will no longer be gay but straight, my mother believes that I was born gay but I must live a celibate and single life (she may as well just say homosexuality is wrong) and my sister says that God will not bring him back because He does not condone homosexual relationship. I must state that me and my significant other did not have a very great relationship but I believe he still loves me for I still love him with all my heart and soul and I want a future with him, no one else. I have tried to discuss this with the local church that accepts gay people but the head of the church told me that I'm obsessed with him and need to talk to my therapist about my obsession while my therapist disagrees and the staff of my psychiatric place do not think that and feel he is a good motivator for me. My therapist keeps suggestion that I go to that church (yeah, getting the run around there.) I can't keep living my life wonder what is true and what is not when it comes to the Bible and homosexuality because though I have strongly disagree with it I have truly been shaken by my family's betrayal and when I posted about this on Facebook my sister decided to blame my significant other for what she has said justifying herself with the Bible and saying that I'm taking out what he did on them when I was taking out what they said on them. Then after this I text her and told her off and she has since barred me from having anything to do with my niece and nephew and putting it on my disorder instead of herself and why? All because I believe God will bring this guy back and they do not believe it because of homosexual bigotry. But I can't prove them wrong no matter how much I try and they contradict me and I just don't know how much more I can take. I am being put through too much then I can handle. I feel everyday that I am struggling with who I am and all because I want to be with the man I truly love.
Another reason I know me and him are meant to be is because we have similar childhood backgrounds (parents divorced [though for different reasons], raised by our grandparents because of it, both have ex-step-fathers that we despised.) I know that there are thousands who could have these similar backgrounds but we also had common traits and people like this to come together as we did only come once in a life time and as I mentioned above the common age gap between me and him and my grandparents and me being the youngest like my grandmother whom I was close with like I am with him. I don't believe in coincidence, I long ago stopped believing in that.
Now, I won't go into long details like why we added a third person to the relationship or what all our problems were because I have since forgiving the situation and some of the problems he caused in our relationship, I'm not innocent, I had my faults and have asked for forgiveness but I still cannot forgive myself for what I have done to him. So please don't ask. It will make me feel like I am a hypocrite and a liar so I will not bring it up. I've even forgiven him for leaving me and have asked God to forgive him for it and our past problems.
All I want is for prayers for me and my significant other to get back together because he is where I belong not here with my family (I am currently living with my mother who is my payee.) I haven't had a great relationship with my sister ever and my mother since I was eight and she always speaks negatively about me about how I was a bad kid, etc. and my significant other despised her and I can't blame him nor do I condemn him for it because he saw how bad she is for himself. I have long ago accepted this and have no desire to change it. I love them but want no part of them. Right now I don't have much of an option. I don't drive as of yet and my mother is my payee. Not going into details.
Oh, my significant other does know about what has happened with my family and from what I've gathered he isn't thrilled about it. Apparently a family member of his that I am friends with told him. Me and my significant other are currently not in contact but he has spoken with my cousin and told her things and I know they are true cause they are complaints about me but the same time she claims he truly cares about me and that's just sending mixed messages because if he truly cares then why leave me in the first place and keep allowing this to happen to me? I don't know if he knows he's why (by that I mean the above mentioning of what my family believes) my cousin claims he does but I will say my cousin isn't 100% reliable either so you have to kind of pick and choose what to believe from what she says. I believe he does care about me (probably still loves me) but I'm just saying that's a funny way of showing someone you care to run off with another person and to have heard what is happening to me and has made no contact with me what-so-ever. I still love him regardless. There's nothing can be done about my family. They have rights just as much as I do, though I feel I don't have any rights at the moment.
Also, am I praying wrong is that why God hasn't brought him back yet? What am I doing wrong? What am I to do? I have been faithful to God and have asked for forgiveness for my sins and I have tried really hard to believe Matthew 21:22 (please don't quote "God's will", Matthew 21:22 makes it clear that it has nothing to do with God's will when it comes to "Ask, believe, receive." Yes I know God's word and I am very against the whole adding exceptions to what is written in the word that aren't there in a verse) and with what I am going through who can blame me, even my therapist and the psychiatric place are in agreement that, with or without a disorder, I am being put through too much humanly possible to deal with on a daily bases.
I may add that I have had some health issues along with being exhausted and sick to my stomach, all the time from the strain and stress. There's another health issue but I'm not putting that on here. I have had suicidal thoughts because off all this though I won't act on them out of fear he will get the full blame for it and I can't do that to him.
So please, pray for me and pray that my significant other will come back. And if I am praying wrong please let me know. I ask God to break them up and to bring him back to me because I don't want nothing to do with the guy he left me for as the guy was a supposed "friend" of mine from high school that I had a crush on but he deceived me for years about our friendship I found out from his two-faced best friend and taking my significant other was one thing too many. I am working on forgiving my ex-friend but deceiving me for years then doing this was too much at once. I just want to be with my significant other. He is my best friend, my soulmate, my lover and my better half. I love him purely and always have and always will and I just want to spend the rest of my life with him.
So please, pray that me and him get back together.