A Straight who can relate

[Rev. Jim Cunningham]

From: Kimmiddlebrooks (Original Message) Sent: 1/1/2008 1:16 PM

I just wanted to say hello and maybe adding something to the discussion by letting you know why I'm here and some of what I think. I joined because of the love I feel for all people. BTW, I am straight. I love the honesty I'm finding here so far! And now I have to be honest: I am a person who is very analytical. I don't understand why human beings would be attracted to the same sex especially as part of a plan. I am at a loss for words on the "why" aspect of this subject. I also know that I have friends and have observed many, many, many beautiful people who are not straight. I admire . . . and would much rather be hanging out with them than a less enlightened straight person. I am honestly seeking help with the "why" question so I can better reach out to my friends (and future friends) who may have a different sexual orientation than myself. Funny I do remember having some sexual feeling for the same sex in grade school and have some now. So in that way I can relate to what some of you may be feeling. I believe that there is probably a biological basis for sexual orientation. However, I don't like the idea that people would engage in this behavior due to mental or emotional needs. Well, at this point I'm probably starting to look pretty ignorant to a lot of you who may have a completely different experience. I once asked a (girl) friend of mine when her feelings for the same sex began. She replied that she never even remembers having sexual feelings for the opposite sex! I'm also curious: it seems like "coming out" would be more difficult for males. God Bless.

[Rev. Jim Cunningham]

From: ManagerMasterGracey Sent: 1/2/2008 5:32 PM
Wecome Kimmiddlebrooks, (and all of our newest members!)

It's a pleasure to have you with us, and to know that you have an open heart in your acceptance of gay and lesbian brothers & sisters.

The answer to your question of "why?" is both simple and difficult to give.

Simple, in that it can be explained with simple examples. For example, for the life of me I cannot understand how anyone loves chocolate cake or tomatoes or clams. I cannot comprehend what the world-view is for a left handed person. I cannot perceive what it is that a heterosexual man finds sexually enticing about females (no offense ladies - you know I love ya!!). So to get a grasp of some small kind on those things that do not interest me, I think of those things which do interest me but doesn't interest others. For example, I can't eat a peanut butter & jelly sandwich without pickles in it. Now, I know that this is totally unusual to others, and I can appreciate why they would wonder, "Ugh, how can you like that?!" Therefore I can also appreciate that they in turn like things that are not of interest to myself and which cause me to ask the same question of them - how can you like that?! Because I cannot understand a straight man's desire for females, I cannot understand why they do not find males romantically/sexually attractive, and I cannot grasp why they are repulsed by the very same body that they themselves have, I have to therefore think of what it is about males that draws me to them and understand that straight men are drawn to the opposite of this, which can only be found in females. But, my goodness, what a boring place the world would be if we were all identical! God has given everyone their own tastes and individuality, and by it He has provided fully for the satisfactions of each taste and personality.

Difficult, in that Man is still trying to understand how we have the capabilty for love and intimacy at all in the first place. Why is it that a man adores a woman? How is it that there is a connect between their hearts, to the extent that they would live and die for each other? The intensity with which we can love another human surpasses any hypothesis of scientific speculation. This, of course, can only be explained as a special creation of God Himself. It is my belief that the sepereate identities of innate heterosexuality and homosexuality is equal to that found in the innate identities of left and right handed people. You are one or the other simply because that is how your being is created. Can a person of one innate identity do the ACTS of the opposite innate identity? Can a right handed person write with his left hand? Can a heterosexual man have sex with another male? Can a homosexual man have sex with a woman? Of course. Humans are capable of doing any act. But that is all it is. An act - both literally and figuratively.

I hope this is helpful in some way to comprehending the "why" of homosexuality.
Love in Jesus,
Rev. Jim
GayChristianSurvivors.com

[Rev. Jim Cunningham]

From: Kimmiddlebrooks Sent: 1/3/2008 11:27 PM
Yes this is in some ways helpful and thank you for taking the time to explain your point of view.